A three-week video course, 3.5 minutes per day, teaching the social anxiety-busting life skill
that you've never heard about.
Do you struggle to know what to say in conversation?
Is it harder than you'd like to build friendships
or find "your people"?
That's how I used to feel.
In this video course, "Make Them Feel Seen," I share the relational skill that solved these problems for both me and hundreds of my clients so far.
"I called up my friend last week and after a minute he goes,
'Dude, you are so good at life.'
I was shocked! I wasn't doing anything special other than making him feel seen. These skills are like a magical power."
- Dan, 28
"I am truly shocked to see just how much of a confidence booster this class has been... I've grown. I learned to love myself more, and I learned how to put things into perspective."
– Shannon, 19
"Conversations are definitely a lot easier. The acknowledgments, like, work. It’s crazy. I’ve gotten a million times better at keeping conversations going. And I’m a lot calmer. I’m not like, ‘oh, what do I say next?’”
- Max, 16
Are you...
a young adult wanting to conquer social anxiety?
a parent looking to reconnect with your teen?
a person at work wanting to better connect
with clients and colleagues?
Are you...
a young adult wanting to conquer social anxiety?
a parent looking to reconnect with your teen?
a person at work wanting to better connect
with clients and colleagues?
Our money-back guarantee:
This course will change your life,
or your money back.
A three-week video course, 3.5 minutes per day, teaching the social anxiety-busting life skill that you've never heard about.
Do you struggle to know what to say in conversation?
Is it harder than you'd like to build friendships
or find "your people"?
That's how I used to feel.
In this video course, "Make Them Feel Seen," I share the relational skill that solved these problems for both me and hundreds of my clients so far.
"I called up my friend last week and a minute into the call, he goes, 'Dude, you are so good at life.' I was shocked!
I wasn't doing anything special other than making him feel seen. These skills are like a magical power."
- Dan, 28
"I am truly shocked to see just how much of a confidence booster this class has been... I've grown. I learned to love myself more, and I learned how to put things into perspective.
– Shannon, 19
"Conversations are definitely a lot easier. The acknowledgments, like, work. It’s crazy. I’ve gotten a million times better at keeping conversations going. And I’m a lot calmer. I’m not like, ‘oh, what do I say next?’”
- Max, 16
☝️ James Treadway on why he created
"Make Them Feel Seen" ☝️
"I wanted to tell you that so far Ben has been thriving in his first week at college. I barely hear from him because he is spending time with new friends.
He actually told me he saw a girl at one of the organized events. She seemed as socially uncomfortable at the event as he did, and he actually went over and started talking. They became fast friends. I do believe that his work with your course gave him the confidence to do that 😊"
- Jeff, Parent
☝️ Hear from our students ☝️
☝️ James Treadway on why he ☝️ created "Make Them Feel Seen"
"I wanted to tell you that so far Ben has been thriving in his first week at college. I barely hear from him because he is spending time with new friends.
He actually told me he saw a girl at one of the organized events. She seemed as socially uncomfortable at the event as he did, and he actually went over and started talking. They became fast friends. I do believe that his work with your course gave him the confidence to do that 😊"
- Jeff, Parent
The skills we teach will help anyone become more skilled at connecting to those around them...
whether you're a young adult struggling with social anxiety or a parent wanting to reconnect with your teenager.
☝️ Hear from our students ☝️
☝️ Hear from our students ☝️
of all ages
What You Get When You Buy
"Make Them Feel Seen"!
Solve social anxiety
Shockingly better connections with kids, coworkers, family
Know what to say in conversation to connect genuinely with anyone
Turn arguments and triggered fights into conversations of connection
Become the most socially mature person in your work and social circles, whom people want to have around!
$99
Money-Back Guarantee:
Not satisfied with the course?
We'll give you a full refund at any time.
Questions? Email James at [email protected]
All purchases processed securely through Stripe™
What You Get When You Buy "Make Them Feel Seen"!
Solve social anxiety
Shockingly better connections with kids, coworkers, family
Know what to say in conversation to connect genuinely with anyone
Turn arguments and triggered fights into conversations of connection
Become the most socially mature person in your work and social circles, whom people want to have around!
$99
Money-Back Guarantee:
Not satisfied with the course?
We'll give you a full refund at any time.
Questions? Email James at [email protected]
All purchases processed securely through Stripe™
Your Instructor
James Treadway:
After graduating from Harvard in 2008, James founded the tutoring company Growth Wise. He's been working with teens and parents for 20 years, first as a tutor for the SAT and ACT and now as a coach in social skills, parenting, and test-taking and performance anxiety. His mission is to help people discover lives that are ever more empowered, connected, and aligned with whom they want to be deep down inside.
Looking to work with James live and 1-on-1? Consider his 12-week Zoom course "Social Skills for Life" in which the skill of making others feel seen is Part 1 of a 4-Part course. Students describe it as life-changing. ($2,997)
Course Details:
- 27 lessons, averaging 3.5 minutes per video
- designed to be watched one per day, so you can layer the skills one-by-one, while you get the opportunity to use and practice each one in daily life (creating habits!).
- Master the 5 most effective ways of making others feel seen and heard in conversation...
- then realize the staggering ways in which these principles can be applied to important parts of your life...
- Eventually making you into a "make others feel seen" jedi, whose life is forever changed.
Curriculum Snapshot:
"I wanted to tell you that so far Ben has been thriving in his first week at college. I barely hear from him because he is spending time with new friends.
He actually told me he saw a girl at one of the organized events. She seemed as socially uncomfortable at the event as he did, and he actually went over and started talking. They became fast friends. I do believe that his work with your course gave him the confidence to do that 😊"
- Jeff, Parent
"My son would dismiss me or walk away from a conversation, or slam the door in my face, and I would just get really angry and sad. But even after just the first session or two, he already started to open up.
Keep an open mind. Some of it sounds like it's not gonna work, but try it anyway. It worked for me!"
- Joanna, Parent
Your Instructor James Treadway:
After graduating from Harvard in 2008, James founded the tutoring company Growth Wise. He's been working with teens and parents for 20 years, first as a tutor for the SAT and ACT and now as a coach in social skills, parenting, and test-taking and performance anxiety. His mission in life is to help people discover lives that are ever more empowered, connected, and aligned with whom they want to be deep down inside.
Looking to work with James live and 1-on-1? Consider his 4-month Zoom course "Social Skills for Life" in which the skill of making others feel seen is Part 1 of a 4-Part course. Students describe it as life-changing. ($4,997)
Video Course Details:
Course Details:
- 27 lessons, averaging 3.5 minutes per video
- designed to be watched one per day, so you can layer the skills one-by-one, while you get the opportunity to use and practice each one in daily life (creating habits!).
- Master the 5 most effective ways of making others feel seen and heard in conversation...
- then realize the staggering ways in which these principles can be applied to important parts of your life...
- Eventually making you into a "make others feel seen" jedi, whose life is forever changed.
Curriculum:
"Make Them Feel Seen" isn't only for the young and socially anxious. It's taken by parents, too!
- -
"It's been night and day since learning this. I was a very close father with my kids, and I was actually sad that I didn't have that anymore. It was getting bad to the point where, I'd yell at [my teenage son], he'd yell and we'd kind of go back and forth.
And that doesn't happen anymore. These little Jedi mind tricks that we learned... it's just a total different realm now. He greets me when I come in the house He offers to help. He asks my wife if she wants to get lunch. That didn't used to happen."
- Sal, Parent
Frequently Asked Questions
How does the money-back guarantee work?
If at any point you decide the course wasn't valuable to you, we'll give you a full refund.
Is this course for teenagers, or parents, or workteams, or... who?!
It's for all of the above. James has worked with students in each of the above groups - not to mention couples looking to get along better - and has found making others feel seen to be a gamechanging skill in every situation.
Is there homework?
No. Just watch one video per day. Each video averages 3.5 minutes in length. From there, you'll find it natural to use the tools describe in the videos in your everyday interactions.
I thought James taught his courses live. What happened to those?
Students can still work with James live and one-on-one - you'll see an offer at checkout to upgrade to working with him personally, if you like.
My son/daughter already sees a therapist - will this offer them anything different than therapy?
This class is a training a set of practical skills for how to relate to others that will last, and pay dividends over the course of, a lifetime.
Therapists listen with an empathic ear but are not training a set of proactive skills designed to uplevel a client's social skills.
What You Get When You Buy
"Make Them Feel Seen"!
Solve social anxiety
Shockingly better connections with kids, coworkers, family
Know what to say in conversation to connect genuinely with anyone
Turn arguments and triggered fights into conversations of connection
Become the most socially mature person in your work and social circles, whom people want to have around!
$99
Money-Back Guarantee:
Not satisfied with the course?
We'll give you a full refund at any time.
Questions? Email James at [email protected]
All purchases processed securely through Stripe™
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this course for teenagers, or parents, or workteams, or... who?!
It's for all of the above. James has worked with students in each of the above groups - not to mention couples looking to get along better - and has found making others feel seen to be a gamechanging skill in every situation.
Is there homework?
No. Just watch one video per day. Each video averages 3.5 minutes in length. From there, you'll find it natural to use the tools describe in the videos in your everyday interactions.
I thought James taught his courses live. What happened to those?
Students can still work with James live and one-on-one - you'll see an offer at checkout to upgrade to working with him personally, if you like.
How does the money-back guarantee work?
If at any point you decide the course wasn't valuable to you, we'll give you a full refund.
My son/daughter already sees a therapist - will this offer them anything different than therapy?
This class is a training a set of practical skills for how to relate to others that will last, and pay dividends over the course of, a lifetime.
Therapists listen with an empathic ear but are not training a set of proactive skills designed to uplevel a client's social skills.
What You Get When You Buy "Make Them Feel Seen"!
Solve social anxiety
Shockingly better connections with kids, coworkers, family
Know what to say in conversation to connect genuinely with anyone
Turn arguments and triggered fights into conversations of connection
Become the most socially mature person in your work and social circles, whom people want to have around!
$99
Money-Back Guarantee:
Not satisfied with the course?
We'll give you a full refund at any time.
Questions? Email James at [email protected]
All purchases processed securely through Stripe™
"I learned so much from the course and I already feel that I have improved dramatically since I first started.
I have been doing things that I had never imagined doing beforehand: introducing myself to strangers, advocating for myself, and asking women on dates.
- Omri, 23
How I Changed My Life by Making Others Feel Seen
My name is James Treadway, I'm 40 as of this writing, and like so many do, I used to suffer terribly from anxiety, depression, and social insecurity growing up.
I couldn't figure out how some of my peers seemed so confident when I was constantly doubting myself, worrying if I was good enough, and wondering how to "do it right" when it came to socializing.
In high school, I was so shut down that I went two years without talking to my parents at the dinner table each night, even though it was just the three of us.
Finally, in my late 30s, after attending more seminars, reading more books, and spending more hours in coaching and therapy than anyone I knew, I realized a solution to my conversational: make the other person feel seen.
It's a skill I call "acknowledgment." When you acknowledge someone, you show them that you see them, with care, just as they are. It can be the tiniest gesture to make, yet so often it seems to mean the world to people.
Acknowledgments changed my life. As a parent, I became someone my kids (a 6yo son and 13yo daughter) are dying to spend time with - yes, even my teenage daughter. When they're acting "difficult" as other parents would see it, I shine, and revel in making them feel seen and heard in the most sensitive times.
My son's kindegarten teacher reflected to me, "I have never had a 5yo boy show the emotional vocabulary that your son has, and I credit that to you," she said to me, shocking me.
In personal conversations, I stopped worrying and started getting curious what it was like to be the people I was speaking to. And how can I show them that I see them?
I began making friends more easily than ever, while feeling joyful - simply by giving each person I spoke to the gift of feeling seen by me. And there were so many ways to do it.
I started sharing this insight with clients, and they came back to me telling me it was "a superpower." Acknowledgment was changing their lives, too.
Meanwhile, I had been an SAT tutor for twenty years, and as I got to know Gen Z better, I realized how much social anxiety, insecurity, and basic skills of relating to others were major problems for them, too.
Imagine not worrying about your future anymore: whether you'll make truly good friends or not, impress the people who will open life-changing doors for you, have confidence in yourself, or enjoy deeply successful relationships.
In the last two decades, I spent $1.5 million of my own income on workshops, retreats, coaching, and therapy to arrive at the insights that make this class so effective.
Yes, it's crazy. But it will be to your benefit!
I invested this time and money into solving these problems SO THAT YOU WON'T HAVE TO!
We're only going to need a month, at 3.5 minutes per day, to get the results that took me two decades to achieve.
I can't wait to share this journey with you!
Teens Want to Be More Extroverted - But Can't Stop Looking at Their Phones!
What I noticed about teens' social skills while volunteering at a teen leadership camp the past six summers:
Almost 90% of the kids at camp each summer seem to show up with the same goal: they wanted better social skills. They wanted to be "more extroverted."
Yet when lunchtime or other down moments in the day arrived, kids didn't go up to each other and start conversations.
They stared down at their phones and scrolled emptily, each one alone from the others.
I sensed these kids wanted to engage with each other, but they had no idea where to start! They felt nervous, and awkward, and simply hid in the familiarity of their own world and phone.
Remember the Google study on "psychological safety" that I mentioned above? They didn't know how to check in with each other and let the other know, "you're OK as you are. You're safe with me" - the thing that each of them was dying to feel from someone else!
So they stayed stuck in their lonely bubbles, and God knows how much suffering this was creating for them back home at high school and college!
Think of how many kids are on anxiety or depression medication right now, their problems hugely fueled by the pain and insecurity of their social lives.
Rewind back to the leadership camp this past summer: there was one girl on my team of 25 teens who broke the mold: she would casually walk up to the other kids on her team and simply say, "how's it going?"
And whatever the kids would answer, she would engage with!
And of course, by the end of the week, it was SHE who was named "Leader of the Week!"
As far as I could tell, the only thing she did that others didn't was to check in with the people around her and relate to what they shared!
Whether she knew it or not, she was a master at acknowledging! She was a leader. And she seemed to be one of the happiest kids at the camp.
THIS is the shift your teen will start to experience: becoming the safe person in the room. Becoming the one who makes others feel seen and accepted as they are.
And don't think it's just other peers whom this matters to. It's EVERY human being in their lives, regardless of age or culture: teachers, bosses, family members, etc.
I've lived in London, Beijing, Colombia, Serbia, and many places in the US, and everywhere I've been, humans respond to acknowledgment with the exact same gratitude and appreciation. It's deeply rooted in our biology.
Not only will you you see a major shift in how your child interacts with peers and mentors - you'll see a NOTICEABLE change in how they interact with YOU!
For the first time, your teen will ask, "how are you, Mom?" or "how are you, Dad?" - and genuinely care about your answer!
This is the type of social habit that doesn't just change friend group dynamics, or the trajectory of your kid's career path in life - it will change your family, too.
Parents Miss Teens' Signals, Leading to Connection Breakdown
What I've noticed raising a teen of my own and coaching parents in how to reconnect with their teen
One of the most important metaphors in parenting is the stoplight: in any moment with your teen, are you getting a "red light," "yellow light," or "green light" response?
A "red light" is their getting triggered, agitated, and shutting down. Clearly, they are telling you to "stop!" Parents failing to connect with their teen are usually neglecting to stop at their teens' red lights. They plow into conversations "for the teenager's own good!" despite the fact that the teen is clearly communicating, "NOT NOW."
A "yellow light" is an ambivalent response, while a "green light" is saying, "yes! Tell me more!" With teens, it can seem like the green lights never come anymore, and that can feel heartbreaking and frustrating as a parent.
Teenagers WILL give parents green lights for what parents want to speak about, however, IF they feel safe and seen by that parent. And one of the key ways to show your teen you see them is to honor their red lights and don't push further on that topic - not then, at least.
A further critical skill in parenting conversations is what FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss calls the "accusation audit," in which you say the worst thing the other person could think about what you're about to say up front, before saying anything else.
To my 13-year-old daughter I'll say, before saying something she might find preachy and annoying, "I'm going to say something extremely annoying and preachy - can I?"
With that intro, and knowing that I honor her red lights when she gives me them, my daughter basically always feels safe to say, "sure, go ahead!"
There's my greenlight :) and now I can say the thing to her that I wanted to.
Her mom still struggles with honoring her red lights, so my daughter closes down much more in her presence.
Making sense? Wanting to learn more? Then join me in 1:1 coaching or taking the "Make Them Feel Seen" video course.
Colleagues Constantly Miss Opportunities to Make Clients, and Each Other, Feel Seen
What I notice every time I enter a workplace
In a book I was reading last year, the author describes how he realized that when he used the line with coworkers, "you're feeling _____, and that makes sense because _____," his career rapidly took off.
Suddenly, everyone in the office wanted him around! He started getting invited to especially important meetings, and promoted!
Well, who doesn't want to be told that they make sense? How many of us feel like nobody understands, at least a lot of the time?
And it isn't just colleagues who are craving to feel seen - it's clients, too.
As someone who loves to get work done in cafes, I'm constantly struck by cafe employees' failure to make customers feel seen in their brief interactions at the register and drink counter.
Who wouldn't return faithfully to a cafe where they feel particularly seen by the staff?
Think back to your favorite teacher growing up - I'll be shocked if it wasn't the teacher by whom you felt most uniquely seen and appreciated.
You probably learned more in that learning environment than in any other class, too.
It sounds hyperbolic to say, but learning to inject your interactions with the skill of making others feel seen and heard will change every part of your life, work included.
"I pay attention now to how I show up for everyone. Especially my daughter. My relationship with her is so much better. Because in the end we don’t have to like the same things. She just wants to be heard :) and acknowledged :) It makes her so happy.
Now she comes home and says, ‘this is what happened! This is what happened!’ Now, I listen! Instead of cutting her off! I used to be short with her! And now, when I tell her about my work, she actually gives me the 5 minutes of undivided attention, and she listens!”
– Julyet, Parent
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS:
Q: Will there be homework?
In James' interactive 1:1 course, he assigns students three minutes a day of quizzing themselves on key slides from the previous session.
In the video course, students have prompts for reflection/journaling after each lesson.
In both classes, reviewing key material daily keeps the content top-of-mind as students go through their day, so they're more likely to notice key themes in their daily life and practice the key techniques.
Q: $2,495 for the 1:1 class with James - isn't that a lot of money for a course that isn't about school?
Yes, yet "Social Skills for Life" - and this will sound like crazy exagerration - is likely to be the most life-changing class they ever take.
To a large degree, school teaches skills and knowledge that we don't use later in life.
Yet in Social Skills for Life or the "Make Them Feel Seen" video course, you will emerge with a self-awareness, groundedness, confidence, and social skill that will last the rest of your life. It won't just alter your career trajectory and the opportunities you're offered by people who want to work with you. It will make your personal relationships deeply fulfilling and successful, too. It will certainly make you a better partner and parent one day.
If you could guarantee these lifelong results - and spare yourself the expenses of therapies, coaching, medication, and addictive behaviors that all stem from insecurities and anxiety - for less than three grand, would you do so?
That is what these classes deliver.
You can quit the class at any time and have the balance of the class refunded to you, based on how much you completed. And if you believe the classes didn't offer you value, we'll refund you for the entire cost.
Q: Why do you teach the interactive class 1:1 instead of in groups?
We used to offer Social Skills for Life to groups of three and four students at a time, but gradually we realized that the one-on-one students were achieving deeper breakthroughs and realizations than the group class students.
Students who didn't know each other were much less likely to share vulnerably about themselves over Zoom in front of others.
As amazing as the class is, it requires a student who's willing to face their fears and limitations in an honest way and apply themselves to the material to discover how it works for them.
If you don't seem ready to do that, then this isn't the class for you.
If you ARE ready to approach the class in a committed and vulnerable way, then signing up will be one of the best decisions you've ever made.
Resolving anxiety is the theme of Part 2 in James' interactive 1:1 class.
Meanwhile, learning to make others feel seen and heard, the topic of the video course and Part 1 of the interactive course, will dramatically lower social anxiety, raise confidence, and thus ease overall anxiety as well.
What You Get When You Buy "Make Them Feel Seen"!
Solve social anxiety
Shockingly better connections with kids, coworkers, family
Know what to say in conversation to connect genuinely with anyone
Turn arguments and triggered fights into conversations of connection
Become the most socially mature person in your work and social circles, whom people want to have around!
$99
Money-Back Guarantee:
Not satisfied with the course?
We'll give you a full refund at any time.
Questions? Email James at [email protected]
All purchases processed securely through Stripe™
"I learned so much from the course and I already feel that I have improved dramatically since I first started.
I have been doing things that I had never imagined doing beforehand: introducing myself to strangers, advocating for myself, and asking women on dates."
- Omri, 23
Teens Want to Be More Extroverted - But Can't Stop Looking at Their Phones!
What I noticed about teens' social skills while volunteering at a teen leadership camp the past six summers:
Almost 90% of the kids at camp each summer seem to show up with the same goal: they wanted better social skills. They wanted to be "more extroverted."
Yet when lunchtime or other down moments in the day arrived, kids didn't go up to each other and start conversations.
They stared down at their phones and scrolled emptily, each one alone from the others.
I sensed these kids wanted to engage with each other, but they had no idea where to start! They felt nervous, and awkward, and simply hid in the familiarity of their own world and phone.
Remember the Google study on "psychological safety" that I mentioned above? They didn't know how to check in with each other and let the other know, "you're OK as you are. You're safe with me" - the thing that each of them was dying to feel from someone else!
So they stayed stuck in their lonely bubbles, and God knows how much suffering this was creating for them back home at high school and college!
Think of how many kids are on anxiety or depression medication right now, their problems hugely fueled by the pain and insecurity of their social lives.
Rewind back to the leadership camp this past summer: there was one girl on my team of 25 teens who broke the mold: she would casually walk up to the other kids on her team and simply say, "how's it going?"
And whatever the kids would answer, she would engage with!
And of course, by the end of the week, it was SHE who was named "Leader of the Week!"
As far as I could tell, the only thing she did that others didn't was to check in with the people around her and relate to what they shared!
Whether she knew it or not, she was a master at acknowledging! She was a leader. And she seemed to be one of the happiest kids at the camp.
THIS is the shift your teen will start to experience: becoming the safe person in the room. Becoming the one who makes others feel seen and accepted as they are.
And don't think it's just other peers whom this matters to. It's EVERY human being in their lives, regardless of age or culture: teachers, bosses, family members, etc.
I've lived in London, Beijing, Colombia, Serbia, and many places in the US, and everywhere I've been, humans respond to acknowledgment with the exact same gratitude and appreciation. It's deeply rooted in our biology.
Not only will you you see a major shift in how your child interacts with peers and mentors - you'll see a NOTICEABLE change in how they interact with YOU!
For the first time, your teen will ask, "how are you, Mom?" or "how are you, Dad?" - and genuinely care about your answer!
This is the type of social habit that doesn't just change friend group dynamics, or the trajectory of your kid's career path in life - it will change your family, too.
Parents Miss Teens' Signals,
Leading to Connection Breakdown
What I've noticed raising a teen of my own and coaching parents in how to reconnect with their teen
One of the most important metaphors in parenting is the stoplight: in any moment with your teen, are you getting a "red light," "yellow light," or "green light" response?
A "red light" is their getting triggered, agitated, and shutting down. Clearly, they are telling you to "stop!" Parents failing to connect with their teen are usually neglecting to stop at their teens' red lights. They plow into conversations "for the teenager's own good!" despite the fact that the teen is clearly communicating, "NOT NOW."
A "yellow light" is an ambivalent response, while a "green light" is saying, "yes! Tell me more!" With teens, it can seem like the green lights never come anymore, and that can feel heartbreaking and frustrating as a parent.
Teenagers WILL give parents green lights for what parents want to speak about, however, IF they feel safe and seen by that parent. And one of the key ways to show your teen you see them is to honor their red lights and don't push further on that topic - not then, at least.
A further critical skill in parenting conversations is what FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss calls the "accusation audit," in which you say the worst thing the other person could think about what you're about to say up front, before saying anything else.
To my 13-year-old daughter I'll say, before saying something she might find preachy and annoying, "I'm going to say something extremely annoying and preachy - can I?"
With that intro, and knowing that I honor her red lights when she gives me them, my daughter basically always feels safe to say, "sure, go ahead!"
There's my greenlight :) and now I can say the thing to her that I wanted to.
Her mom still struggles with honoring her red lights, so my daughter closes down much more in her presence.
Making sense? Wanting to learn more? Then join me in 1:1 coaching or taking the "Make Them Feel Seen" video course.
Colleagues Constantly Miss Opportunities to Make Clients, and Each Other, Feel Seen
What I notice every time I enter a workplace
In a book I was reading last year, the author describes how he realized that when he used the line with coworkers, "you're feeling _____, and that makes sense because _____," his career rapidly took off.
Suddenly, everyone in the office wanted him around! He started getting invited to especially important meetings, and promoted!
Well, who doesn't want to be told that they make sense? How many of us feel like nobody understands, at least a lot of the time?
And it isn't just colleagues who are craving to feel seen - it's clients, too.
As someone who loves to get work done in cafes, I'm constantly struck by cafe employees' failure to make customers feel seen in their brief interactions at the register and drink counter.
Who wouldn't return faithfully to a cafe where they feel particularly seen by the staff?
Think back to your favorite teacher growing up - I'll be shocked if it wasn't the teacher by whom you felt most uniquely seen and appreciated.
You probably learned more in that learning environment than in any other class, too.
It sounds hyperbolic to say, but learning to inject your interactions with the skill of making others feel seen and heard will change every part of your life, work included.
"I pay attention now to how I show up for everyone. Especially my daughter. My relationship with her is so much better. Because in the end we don’t have to like the same things. She just wants to be heard :) and acknowledged :) It makes her so happy.
Now she comes home and says, ‘this is what happened! This is what happened!’ Now, I listen! Instead of cutting her off! I used to be short with her! And now, when I tell her about my work, she actually gives me the 5 minutes of undivided attention, and she listens!”
– Julyet, Parent
What You Get When You Buy
"Make Them Feel Seen"!
Solve social anxiety
Shockingly better connections with kids, coworkers, family
Know what to say in conversation to connect genuinely with anyone
Turn arguments and triggered fights into conversations of connection
Become the most socially mature person in your work and social circles, whom people want to have around!
$99
Money-Back Guarantee:
Not satisfied with the course?
We'll give you a full refund at any time.
Questions? Email James at [email protected]
All purchases processed securely through Stripe™
