A live, 1-on-1 Zoom course over 12 weeks teaching life-changing social skills, ages 12-Adult.

A live, 1-on-1 Zoom course teaching life-changing

social skills, ages 12-Adult.

Do you struggle to know what to say in conversation?

Do you have a hard time connecting with others, feeling awkward instead?

Are you beset with anxiety and don't know how to get out of it?

Does the fear of rejection or failure hold you back from being yourself?

Is your confidence way lower than it should be?

THEN SOCIAL SKILLS FOR LIFE

IS FOR YOU!

James on why he created

Social Skills for Life

SOCIAL SKILLS FOR LIFE

features teachings from Dale Carnegie, Chris Voss, Tony Robbins, Dick Schwartz, and more

Do you struggle to know what to say in conversation?

Do you have a hard time connecting with others, feeling awkward instead?

Are you beset with anxiety and don't know how to get out of it?

Does the fear of rejection or failure hold you back from being yourself?

Is your confidence way lower than it should be?

THEN SOCIAL SKILLS FOR LIFE

IS FOR YOU

☝️ James Treadway on why he created Social Skills for Life ☝️

SOCIAL SKILLS FOR LIFE

features teachings from Dale Carnegie, Chris Voss, Tony Robbins, Dick Schwartz, and more

Students' results:

Mark, 16, has a completely different social life after

learning the skills in Social Skills for Life

Olivia, 15, learned to connect, brave rejection,

and make friends in ways she never could before.

What You'll Get in

Social Skills for Life!

  1. Twelve 1-on-1, 60-minute Zoom classes with James, plus the option for further discounted coaching sessions.

  2. Lifetime access to James' video course "Make Them Feel Seen" ($99 value)

Mastery in four lifelong lessons:

  1. Lesson 1: "Make them feel seen" - solve social anxiety. Know what to say in conversation. Connect with anyone.

  2. Lesson 2: "Calm and grounded you" - master anxiety and bring the best version of you to any moment.

  3. Lesson 3: "Go for No!" - blast through your fear of rejection.

  4. Lesson 4: "Your Core Gifts" - discover your uniqueness, deepening self love and enlightening your choices in friends, partner, and path in life.

First class:

$222

Money-Back Guarantee:

We'll Give You a Full Refund at Any Time

If you like the first class and decide to take the rest, you can upgrade to the remaining 11 classes for just $2,775 (saving $1,222 on a class normally valued at $3,997).

Questions? Email James at [email protected]

All purchases processed securely through Stripe™

Texts from students and parents:

Parents reflect on the shift in their 17-year-old

after taking "Social Skills for Life"

Your Instructor James Treadway:

After graduating from Harvard in 2008, James founded the tutoring company Growth Wise. He's been working with teens and parents for 20 years, first as a tutor for the SAT and ACT and now as a coach in social skills, parenting, and test-taking and performance anxiety. After struggling with these issues himself and finally resolving them, he found his mission: to help people discover lives that are ever more empowered, connected, and aligned with whom they really are and want to be.

What You'll Get in

Social Skills for Life!

  1. Twelve 1-on-1, 60-minute Zoom classes with James, plus the option for further discounted coaching sessions.

  2. Lifetime access to James' video course "Make Them Feel Seen" ($99 value)

Mastery in four lifelong lessons:

  1. Lesson 1: "Make them feel seen" - solve social anxiety. Know what to say in conversation. Connect with anyone.

  2. Lesson 2: "Calm and grounded you" - master anxiety and bring the best version of you to any moment.

  3. Lesson 3: "Go for No!" - blast through your fear of rejection.

  4. Lesson 4: "Your Core Gifts" - discover your uniqueness, deepening self love and enlightening your choices in friends, partner, and path in life.

First class:

$222

Money-Back Guarantee:

We'll Give You a Full Refund at Any Time

If you like the first class and decide to take the rest, you can upgrade to the remaining 11 classes for just $2,775 (saving $1,222 on a class normally valued at $3,997).

Questions? Email James at [email protected]

All purchases processed securely through Stripe™

Students' results:

The skills we teach will help anyone become more skilled at connecting to those around them...

whether you're a young adult struggling with social anxiety or a parent wanting to reconnect with your teenager.

Mark, 16, has a completely different social life after learning the skills in

Social Skills for Life

☝️ Hear from our students ☝️

of all ages

Olivia, 15, learned to connect, brave rejection, and make friends in ways she never could before.

What You'll Get in

Social Skills for Life!

  1. Twelve 1-on-1, 60-minute Zoom classes with James, plus the option for further discounted coaching sessions.

  2. Lifetime access to James' video course "Make Them Feel Seen" ($99 value)

Mastery in four lifelong lessons:

  1. Lesson 1: "Make them feel seen" - solve social anxiety. Know what to say in conversation. Connect with anyone.

  2. Lesson 2: "Calm and grounded you" - master anxiety and bring the best version of you to any moment.

  3. Lesson 3: "Go for No!" - blast through your fear of rejection.

  4. Lesson 4: "Your Core Gifts" - discover your uniqueness, deepening self love and enlightening your choices in friends, partner, and path in life.

First class:

$222

Money-Back Guarantee:

We'll Give You a Full Refund at Any Time

If you like the first class and decide to take the rest, you can upgrade to the remaining 11 classes for just $2,775 (saving $1,222 on a class normally valued at $3,997).

Questions? Email James at [email protected]

All purchases processed securely through Stripe™

☝️ Hear from our students ☝️

of all ages

"I am truly shocked to see just how much of a confidence booster this class has been... I've grown. I learned to love myself more, and I learned how to put things into perspective.

Siena, 17

"I am truly shocked to see just how much of a confidence booster this class has been... I've grown. I learned to love myself more, and I learned how to put things into perspective.

Siena, 17

"I am truly shocked to see just how much of a confidence booster this class has been... I've grown. I learned to love myself more, and I learned how to put things into perspective.

Siena, 17

Texts from students and parents:

Parents reflect on the shift in their 17-year-old after taking "Social Skills for Life"

Your Instructor

James Treadway:

After graduating from Harvard in 2008, James founded the tutoring company Growth Wise. He's been working with teens and parents for 20 years, first as a tutor for the SAT and ACT and now as a coach in social skills, parenting, and test-taking and performance anxiety. After struggling with these issues himself and finally resolving them, he found his mission: to help people discover lives that are ever more empowered, connected, and aligned with whom they really are and want to be.

What You'll Get in

Social Skills for Life!

  1. Twelve 1-on-1, 60-minute Zoom classes with James, plus the option for further discounted coaching sessions.

  2. Lifetime access to James' video course "Make Them Feel Seen" ($99 value)

Mastery in four lifelong lessons:

  1. Lesson 1: "Make them feel seen" - solve social anxiety. Know what to say in conversation. Connect with anyone.

  2. Lesson 2: "Calm and grounded you" - master anxiety and bring the best version of you to any moment.

  3. Lesson 3: "Go for No!" - blast through your fear of rejection.

  4. Lesson 4: "Your Core Gifts" - discover your uniqueness, deepening self love and enlightening your choices in friends, partner, and path in life.

First class:

$222

Money-Back Guarantee:

We'll Give You a Full Refund at Any Time

If you like the first class and decide to take the rest, you can upgrade to the remaining 11 classes for just $2,775 (saving $1,222 on a class normally valued at $3,997).

Questions? Email James at [email protected]

All purchases processed securely through Stripe™

Class Curriculum:

Class Curriculum:

1. "MAKE THEM FEEL SEEN" - ELEVATE EVERY RELATIONSHIP, KNOW WHAT TO SAY IN CONVERSATION

1. "MAKE THEM FEEL SEEN" - ELEVATE EVERY RELATIONSHIP, KNOW WHAT TO SAY IN CONVERSATION

TAUGHT IN 1:1 COURSE AND VIDEO COURSE

TAUGHT IN 1:1 COURSE AND VIDEO COURSE

- learn the life-changing skill of making others feel seen. Get ready for the best conversations of your life, and a social confidence you'd never had guessed would be so easy to arrive at.

- learn the life-changing skill of making others feel seen and heard. Have the best conversations of your life and a social confidence you'd never had guessed would be so easy to arrive at.

2. NO MORE ANXIETY 

2. NO MORE ANXIETY 

TAUGHT IN 1:1 COURSE ONLY

TAUGHT IN 1:1 COURSE ONLY

- use your nervous system to (a) flip out of anxiety in any moment and (b) connect to a positive, honest, and self-affirming voice that reigns supreme inside your head over the critical, fearful, and mean one that used to dominate and make you more stressed and anxious.

- this really works!

- use your nervous system to (a) flip out of anxiety in any moment and (b) connect to a positive, honest, and self-affirming voice that reigns supreme inside your head over the critical, fearful, and mean one that used to dominate and make you more stressed and anxious.

- this really works!

3. GO FOR NO! 

YOUR NEW RELATIONSHIP TO FAILURE + REJECTION

3. GO FOR NO! 

YOUR NEW RELATIONSHIP TO FAILURE + REJECTION

TAUGHT IN 1:1 COURSE ONLY

TAUGHT IN 1:1 COURSE ONLY

- most people let fear hold them back from going for what they want, and this means they never get it. Break free from the prison of fearing failure or others' judgment so you can go after the life you want to live. See how much fun life becomes and how naturally your confidence builds!

- most people let fear hold them back from going for what they want, and this means they never get it. Break free from the prison of fearing failure or others' judgment so you can go after the life you want to live. See how much fun life becomes and how naturally your confidence builds!

4. YOUR CORE GIFTS: KEYS TO SELF-LOVE AND SMART LIFE CHOICES

4. YOUR CORE GIFTS: KEYS TO SELF-LOVE AND SMART LIFE CHOICES

TAUGHT IN 1:1 COURSE ONLY

TAUGHT IN 1:1 COURSE ONLY

- Author Ken Page's work focuses on recognizing your Core Gifts: the qualities you have that make you unique. Most of us aren't quite aware of them, leading to misunderstandings with people and our trying to force relationships that don't really work. Cherishing our Core Gifts is how we find the friendships, partner, and career that fit us best.

- Author Ken Page's work focuses on recognizing your Core Gifts: the qualities you have that make you unique. Most of us aren't quite aware of them, leading to misunderstandings with people and our trying to force relationships that don't really work. Cherishing our Core Gifts is how we find the friendships, partner, and career that fit us best.

☝️ Michelle watched her daughters' lives change ☝️ after taking Social Skills for Life

Michelle watched her daughters' lives change after they took Social Skills for Life

What You'll Get in

Social Skills for Life!

  1. Twelve 1-on-1, 60-minute Zoom classes with James, plus the option for further discounted coaching sessions.

  2. Lifetime access to James' video course "Make Them Feel Seen" ($99 value)

Mastery in four lifelong lessons:

  1. Lesson 1: "Make them feel seen" - solve social anxiety. Know what to say in conversation. Connect with anyone.

  2. Lesson 2: "Calm and grounded you" - master anxiety and bring the best version of you to any moment.

  3. Lesson 3: "Go for No!" - blast through your fear of rejection.

  4. Lesson 4: "Your Core Gifts" - discover your uniqueness, deepening self love and enlightening your choices in friends, partner, and path in life.

First class:

$222

Money-Back Guarantee:

We'll Give You a Full Refund at Any Time

If you like the first class and decide to take the rest, you can upgrade to the remaining 11 classes for just $2,775 (saving $1,222 on a class normally valued at $3,997).

Questions? Email James at [email protected]

All purchases processed securely through Stripe™

Frequently Asked Questions

Is there homework?

Yes! Three minutes per day, in both the 1:1 class Social Skills for Life and the video course "Make Them Feel Seen" ($99), available at checkout.

Is this only for teenagers? Or is it for adults, too?

The class is for anyone aged 12 and older. Adults can benefit enormously from the skillset taught, just as teenagers can.

I thought you guys had a group class. Do you still?

We no longer offer a group class after we found that participants were rarely willing to share vulnerably about themselves in front of other students. We only offer the 1:1 class now, so the conversations can be more genuine and thus the transformations more powerful.

Do the live course and video course "Make Them Feel Seen" cover the same material?

The video course "Make Them Feel Seen" is available at checkout for just $99, and it covers just Part 1 of the 4-Part Social Skills for Life live course.

How does the money-back guarantee work?

If you stop the 1:1 live course at any point, we'll refund you the difference (so if you've completed just the first half of the course, we'll refund you half of what you've paid).

If you tell us that nothing in the course was of value to you, we'll refund the entire course to you, both for the live course and the video course.

Is this like therapy or counseling?

No, and that's actually one of our clients' favorite aspects of the class. This is a training, a building of a practical skillset, that you'll apply every day for the rest of your life. Think of it more like practicing a sport or instrument.

These skills deliver the results that people often hope to get from therapy or counseling but can end up disappointed at not achieving in those contexts: improved social skills, better relationships, reduced anxiety, greater self love, and huge boosts in courage to go after the life you desire.

We're biased, of course! We believe these skills are built much more effectively in our classes than typically occurs in therapy or counseling.

Why do the courses cost this much?

The video course was made for families who do not have the budget for the live course.

Further, unlike academic tutoring which is done for classes that are unlikely to figure into the student's life later on, social skills immediately translate into all of the student's relationships, both now and decades into the future.

Imagine being a parent who makes their kids feel seen and heard, or a manager who does the same for his team, or a partner who does that for their husband or wife. What price equates with how valuable that will be?

Imagine someone being able to tap into their calm and grounded self no matter the situation, for the rest of their lives, their anxious self no longer self-sabotaging them.

Imagine the results someone achieves when they courageously pursue their dreams over and over and don't let failures and setbacks derail them!

These results are guaranteed to any student who puts in the daily homework and tries the tools in real life.

I'm not sure my son/daughter will be interested. What should we do?

No problem. Try the first class for $222, an option available at Checkout, and see if the class is a fit or not.

James does not spend his time teaching half-interested students, so if enthusiasm for the material isn't shown, parents will be notified and a refund for the class will be given.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is there homework?

Yes! Three minutes per day, in both the 1:1 class Social Skills for Life and the video course "Make Them Feel Seen" ($99), available at checkout.

Is this only for teenagers? Or is it for adults, too?

The class is for anyone aged 12 and older. Adults can benefit enormously from the skillset taught, just as teenagers can.

I thought you guys had a group class. Do you still?

We no longer offer a group class after we found that participants were rarely willing to share vulnerably about themselves in front of other students. We only offer the 1:1 class now, so the conversations can be more genuine and thus the transformations more powerful.

Do the live course and video course "Make Them Feel Seen" cover the same material?

The video course "Make Them Feel Seen" is available at checkout for just $99, and it covers just Part 1 of the 4-Part Social Skills for Life live course.

How does the money-back guarantee work?

If you stop the 1:1 live course at any point, we'll refund you the difference (so if you've completed just the first half of the course, we'll refund you half of what you've paid).

If you tell us that nothing in the course was of value to you, we'll refund the entire course to you, both for the live course and the video course.

Is this like therapy or counseling?

No, and that's actually one of our clients' favorite aspects of the class. This is a training, a building of a practical skillset, that you'll apply every day for the rest of your life. Think of it more like practicing a sport or instrument.

These skills deliver the results that people often hope to get from therapy or counseling but can end up disappointed at not achieving in those contexts: improved social skills, better relationships, reduced anxiety, greater self love, and huge boosts in courage to go after the life you desire.

We're biased, of course! We believe these skills are built much more effectively in our classes than typically occurs in therapy or counseling.

Why do the courses cost this much?

The video course was made for families who do not have the budget for the live course.

Further, unlike academic tutoring which is done for classes that are unlikely to figure into the student's life later on, social skills immediately translate into all of the student's relationships, both now and decades into the future.

Imagine being a parent who makes their kids feel seen and heard, or a manager who does the same for his team, or a partner who does that for their husband or wife. What price equates with how valuable that will be?

Imagine someone being able to tap into their calm and grounded self no matter the situation, for the rest of their lives, their anxious self no longer self-sabotaging them.

Imagine the results someone achieves when they courageously pursue their dreams over and over and don't let failures and setbacks derail them!

These results are guaranteed to any student who puts in the daily homework and tries the tools in real life.

I'm not sure my son/daughter will be interested. What should we do?

No problem. Try the first class for $222, an option available at Checkout, and see if the class is a fit or not.

James does not spend his time teaching half-interested students, so if enthusiasm for the material isn't shown, parents will be notified and a refund for the class will be given.

What You'll Get in

Social Skills for Life!

  1. Twelve 1-on-1, 60-minute Zoom classes with James, plus the option for further discounted coaching sessions.

  2. Lifetime access to James' video course "Make Them Feel Seen" ($99 value)

Mastery in four lifelong lessons:

  1. Lesson 1: "Make them feel seen" - solve social anxiety. Know what to say in conversation. Connect with anyone.

  2. Lesson 2: "Calm and grounded you" - master anxiety and bring the best version of you to any moment.

  3. Lesson 3: "Go for No!" - blast through your fear of rejection.

  4. Lesson 4: "Your Core Gifts" - discover your uniqueness, deepening self love and enlightening your choices in friends, partner, and path in life.

First class:

$222

Money-Back Guarantee:

We'll Give You a Full Refund at Any Time

If you like the first class and decide to take the rest, you can upgrade to the remaining 11 classes for just $2,775 (saving $1,222 on a class normally valued at $3,997).

Questions? Email James at [email protected]

All purchases processed securely through Stripe™

Hear James discuss the class in greater detail on the following podcasts: 


"Teen Talks Pod"
"For Us Not To Us"
"Just Don't Eff Them Up"

You'll Get Rid Of...

- Social anxiety, awkwardness, uptightness, not knowing what to say

- Wishing you could be friends with certain people but not knowing how to

- Wishing you could talk to your crush but not knowing how to!

- Needless arguments and lost/hurt friendships

- Self-defeating narratives that can wreck a life

- Missed opportunities! To be yourself, to show your true self to the world, to find your tribe, to find your ideal partner, to find where you will THRIVE in the world! 

- $100,000+ lifetime expenses on therapy, medications, divorce fees (!), missed job opportunities

"I called up my friend last week and after a minute he goes, 'Dude, you are so good at life.' 

I was shocked! I wasn't doing anything special other than making him feel seen. These skills are like a magical power." 

- Dan, 37

"I learned so much from the course and I already feel that I have improved dramatically since I first started. 

I have been doing things that I had never imagined doing beforehand: introducing myself to strangers, advocating for myself, and asking women on dates. 

I also like how you listened to me and made me feel seen, as you taught me. I am usually not very vulnerable and prefer to hide things about my life, so it takes a lot of skill to get those things out of me."

- Omri, 23

"Conversations are definitely a lot easier. The acknowledgments, like, work. It’s crazy. I’ve gotten a million times better at keeping conversations going. And I’m a lot calmer. I’m not like, ‘oh, what do I say next?’”

- Max, 16

"I am truly shocked to see just how much of a confidence booster this class has been... I've grown. I learned to love myself more, and I learned how to put things into perspective.

Shannon, 17

Hear James discuss the class in greater detail on the following podcasts: 


"Teen Talks Pod"


"For Us Not To Us"


"Just Don't Eff Them Up"

"I wanted to tell you that so far Ben has been thriving in his first week at college. I barely hear from him because he is spending time with new friends. You will appreciate this…He actually told me he saw a girl at one of the organized events, she seemed as socially uncomfortable at the event as he did and he actually went over and started talking. They became fast friends. I do believe that his work with you gave him the confidence to do that 😊"

- Jeff, Parent of Ben (19)

"I called up my friend last week and after a minute he goes, 'Dude, you are so good at life.' 

I was shocked! I wasn't doing anything special other than making him feel seen. These skills are like a magical power." 

- Dan, 37

What You'll Get in

Social Skills for Life!

  1. Twelve 1-on-1, 60-minute Zoom classes with James, plus the option for further discounted coaching sessions.

  2. Lifetime access to James' video course "Make Them Feel Seen" ($99 value)

Mastery in four lifelong lessons:

  1. Lesson 1: "Make them feel seen" - solve social anxiety. Know what to say in conversation. Connect with anyone.

  2. Lesson 2: "Calm and grounded you" - master anxiety and bring the best version of you to any moment.

  3. Lesson 3: "Go for No!" - blast through your fear of rejection.

  4. Lesson 4: "Your Core Gifts" - discover your uniqueness, deepening self love and enlightening your choices in friends, partner, and path in life.

First class:

$222

Money-Back Guarantee:

We'll Give You a Full Refund at Any Time

If you like the first class and decide to take the rest, you can upgrade to the remaining 11 classes for just $2,775 (saving $1,222 on a class normally valued at $3,997).

Questions? Email James at [email protected]

All purchases processed securely through Stripe™

James' journey to solving the depression, anxiety, and social insecurity that so many people struggle with today

I'm 40 years old as of this writing, and like so many do, I used to suffer terribly from anxiety, depression, and insecurity growing up.

I couldn't figure out how some of my peers seemed so confident when I was constantly doubting myself, worrying if I was good enough, and wondering how to "do it right" when it came to socializing.

In high school, I was so shut down that I went two years without talking to my parents at the dinner table each night, even though it was just the three of us.

Finally, in my late 30s, after attending more seminars, reading more books, and spending more hours in coaching and therapy than anyone I knew, I realized a solution to my conversational: make the other person feel seen

It's a skill I call "acknowledgment." When you acknowledge someone, you show them that you see them, with care, just as they are. It can be the tiniest gesture to make, yet so often it seems to mean the world to people. 

Acknowledgments changed my life. I stopped worrying about myself all of the time (am I good enough? Are they judging me? Do I fit in?), and started getting curious what it was like to be the people I was speaking to. And how can I show them that I see them?

I began making friends easily, while feeling joyful - simply by giving each person I spoke to the gift of feeling seen by me. And there were so many ways to do it.

I started sharing this insight with clients, and they came back to me telling me it was "a superpower." Acknowledgment was changing their lives, too.

Meanwhile, I had been an SAT tutor for twenty years, and as I got to know Gen Z better, I realized how much social anxiety, insecurity, and basic skills of relating to others were major problems for them, too.

Social Skills for Life is designed to fix those very problems. 

Beyond making our students masters at acknowledgment, they gain life-changing skills around anxiety, fear of rejection, and self-love, too.

Imagine not worrying about your future anymore: whether you'll make truly good friends or not, impress the people who will open life-changing doors for you, have confidence in yourself, or enjoy deeply successful relationships. 

In the last two decades, I spent $1.5 million of my own income on workshops, retreats, coaching, and therapy to arrive at the insights that make this class so effective. 

Yes, it's crazy. But it will be to your benefit!

I invested this time and money into solving these problems SO THAT YOU WON'T HAVE TO!

We're only going to need 12 weeks to get the results that took me two decades to achieve.

I can't wait to walk this journey with you.

"I wanted to tell you that so far Ben has been thriving in his first week at college. I barely hear from him because he is spending time with new friends. You will appreciate this…He actually told me he saw a girl at one of the organized events, she seemed as socially uncomfortable at the event as he did and he actually went over and started talking. They became fast friends. I do believe that his work with you gave him the confidence to do that 😊"

- Jeff, Parent of Ben (19)

GEN Z IS EXPERIENCING MORE LONELINESS, ANXIETY, AND DEPRESSION THAN ANY GENERATION BEFORE

  • The percent of teen girls who experienced a major depressive episode in prior year increased by 2.5x from 13% in 2004 to 30% in 2020, and this figure has gotten even worse since the pandemic (Source: U.S. National Survey on Drug Use and Health)
  • The percentage of teen boys who experienced a major depressive episode in the previous year also increased by 2.5x, from 5% in 2004 to 12% in 2020.
  • ​Among college students, anxiety has increased 134% from 10% in 2008 to 24% in 2020.
  • "This is the generation that grew up with the internet, and what I'm seeing is a lot of comparison," said Alyssa Mancao, a therapist in Los Angeles with a Gen Z client base.
  • ​Mancao said her clients talk about comparing everything from their physical appearances to their career paths with their peers and influencers online. "There are a lot of feelings of inadequacy."

GEN Z IS EXPERIENCING MORE LONELINESS, ANXIETY, AND DEPRESSION THAN ANY GENERATION BEFORE

  • The percent of teen girls who experienced a major depressive episode in prior year increased by 2.5x from 13% in 2004 to 30% in 2020, and this figure has gotten even worse since the pandemic (Source: U.S. National Survey on Drug Use and Health)
  • The percentage of teen boys who experienced a major depressive episode in the previous year also increased by 2.5x, from 5% in 2004 to 12% in 2020.
  • ​Among college students, anxiety has increased 134% from 10% in 2008 to 24% in 2020.
  • "This is the generation that grew up with the internet, and what I'm seeing is a lot of comparison," said Alyssa Mancao, a therapist in Los Angeles with a Gen Z client base.
  • ​Mancao said her clients talk about comparing everything from their physical appearances to their career paths with their peers and influencers online. "There are a lot of feelings of inadequacy."

Teens Want to Be More Extroverted 

But Can't Stop Looking at Their Phones

What I noticed about teens' social skills while volunteering at a teen leadership camp the past six summers:

Almost 90% of the kids at camp each summer seem to show up with the same goal: they wanted better social skills. They wanted to be "more extroverted." 

Yet when lunchtime or other down moments in the day arrived, kids didn't go up to each other and start conversations. 

They stared down at their phones and scrolled emptily, each one alone from the others.

I sensed these kids wanted to engage with each other, but they had no idea where to start! They felt nervous, and awkward, and simply hid in the familiarity of their own world and phone.

Remember the Google study on "psychological safety" that I mentioned above? They didn't know how to check in with each other and let the other know, "you're OK as you are. You're safe with me" - the thing that each of them was dying to feel from someone else!

So they stayed stuck in their lonely bubbles, and God knows how much suffering this was creating for them back home at high school and college! 

Think of how many kids are on anxiety or depression medication right now, their problems hugely fueled by the pain and insecurity of their social lives.

Rewind back to the leadership camp this past summer: there was one girl on my team of 25 teens who broke the mold: she would casually walk up to the other kids on her team and simply say, "how's it going?" 

And whatever the kids would answer, she would engage with!

And of course, by the end of the week, it was SHE who was named "Leader of the Week!"

As far as I could tell, the only thing she did that others didn't was to check in with the people around her and relate to what they shared! 

Whether she knew it or not, she was a master at acknowledging! She was a leader. And she seemed to be one of the happiest kids at the camp.

THIS is the shift your teen will start to experience: becoming the safe person in the room. Becoming the one who makes others feel seen and accepted as they are. 

And don't think it's just other peers whom this matters to. It's EVERY human being in their lives, regardless of age or culture: teachers, bosses, family members, etc.

I've lived in London, Beijing, Colombia, Serbia, and many places in the US, and everywhere I've been, humans respond to acknowledgment with the exact same gratitude and appreciation. It's deeply rooted in our biology.

Not only will you you see a major shift in how your child interacts with peers and mentors - you'll see a NOTICEABLE change in how they interact with YOU! 

For the first time, your teen will ask, "how are you, Mom?" or "how are you, Dad?" - and genuinely care about your answer! 

This is the type of social habit that doesn't just change friend group dynamics, or the trajectory of your kid's career path in life - it will change your family, too. 

"I have grown to be more comfortable with stepping out of my comfort zone; whether it be sparking a conversation with somebody I wouldn’t normally, or just going for what I want."

– Shannon, 18

What You'll Get in

Social Skills for Life!

  1. Twelve 1-on-1, 60-minute Zoom classes with James, plus the option for further discounted coaching sessions.

  2. Lifetime access to James' video course "Make Them Feel Seen" ($99 value)

Mastery in four lifelong lessons:

  1. Lesson 1: "Make them feel seen" - solve social anxiety. Know what to say in conversation. Connect with anyone.

  2. Lesson 2: "Calm and grounded you" - master anxiety and bring the best version of you to any moment.

  3. Lesson 3: "Go for No!" - blast through your fear of rejection.

  4. Lesson 4: "Your Core Gifts" - discover your uniqueness, deepening self love and enlightening your choices in friends, partner, and path in life.

First class:

$222

Money-Back Guarantee:

We'll Give You a Full Refund at Any Time

If you like the first class and decide to take the rest, you can upgrade to the remaining 11 classes for just $2,775 (saving $1,222 on a class normally valued at $3,997).

Questions? Email James at [email protected]

All purchases processed securely through Stripe™

"I have grown to be more comfortable with stepping out of my comfort zone; whether it be sparking a conversation with somebody I wouldn’t normally, or just going for what I want."

Shannon, 18

Teens Want to Be More Extroverted 

But Can't Stop Looking at Their Phones

What I noticed about teens' social skills while volunteering at a teen leadership camp the past six summers:

Almost 90% of the kids at camp each summer seem to show up with the same goal: they wanted better social skills. They wanted to be "more extroverted." 

Yet when lunchtime or other down moments in the day arrived, kids didn't go up to each other and start conversations. 

They stared down at their phones and scrolled emptily, each one alone from the others.

I sensed these kids wanted to engage with each other, but they had no idea where to start! They felt nervous, and awkward, and simply hid in the familiarity of their own world and phone.

Remember the Google study on "psychological safety" that I mentioned above? They didn't know how to check in with each other and let the other know, "you're OK as you are. You're safe with me" - the thing that each of them was dying to feel from someone else!

So they stayed stuck in their lonely bubbles, and God knows how much suffering this was creating for them back home at high school and college! 

Think of how many kids are on anxiety or depression medication right now, their problems hugely fueled by the pain and insecurity of their social lives.

Rewind back to the leadership camp this past summer: there was one girl on my team of 25 teens who broke the mold: she would casually walk up to the other kids on her team and simply say, "how's it going?" 

And whatever the kids would answer, she would engage with!

And of course, by the end of the week, it was SHE who was named "Leader of the Week!"

As far as I could tell, the only thing she did that others didn't was to check in with the people around her and relate to what they shared! 

Whether she knew it or not, she was a master at acknowledging! She was a leader. And she seemed to be one of the happiest kids at the camp.

THIS is the shift your teen will start to experience: becoming the safe person in the room. Becoming the one who makes others feel seen and accepted as they are. 

And don't think it's just other peers whom this matters to. It's EVERY human being in their lives, regardless of age or culture: teachers, bosses, family members, etc.

I've lived in London, Beijing, Colombia, Serbia, and many places in the US, and everywhere I've been, humans respond to acknowledgment with the exact same gratitude and appreciation. It's deeply rooted in our biology.

Not only will you you see a major shift in how your child interacts with peers and mentors - you'll see a NOTICEABLE change in how they interact with YOU! 

For the first time, your teen will ask, "how are you, Mom?" or "how are you, Dad?" - and genuinely care about your answer! 

This is the type of social habit that doesn't just change friend group dynamics, or the trajectory of your kid's career path in life - it will change your family, too. 

What You'll Get in

Social Skills for Life!

  1. Twelve 1-on-1, 60-minute Zoom classes with James, plus the option for further discounted coaching sessions.

  2. Lifetime access to James' video course "Make Them Feel Seen" ($99 value)

Mastery in four lifelong lessons:

  1. Lesson 1: "Make them feel seen" - solve social anxiety. Know what to say in conversation. Connect with anyone.

  2. Lesson 2: "Calm and grounded you" - master anxiety and bring the best version of you to any moment.

  3. Lesson 3: "Go for No!" - blast through your fear of rejection.

  4. Lesson 4: "Your Core Gifts" - discover your uniqueness, deepening self love and enlightening your choices in friends, partner, and path in life.

First class:

$222

Money-Back Guarantee:

We'll Give You a Full Refund at Any Time

If you like the first class and decide to take the rest, you can upgrade to the remaining 11 classes for just $2,775 (saving $1,222 on a class normally valued at $3,997).

Questions? Email James at [email protected]

All purchases processed securely through Stripe™